Celeste Ng, author of “Everything I never told you” and “Little Fires Everywhere” received hate mail earlier this week. Celeste Ng who is Chinese American and married to a white man received an email from an Asian male named Brandon Ho who wished mental illness toward her half white child. The message by a Brandon Ho tells her,
“I’m a huge fan of watching your son develop mental illness because of your internalized self hate. Your Asian looking son will grow up knowing his mom thinks he’s ugly, and his dad won’t be able to relate.”
Celeste decided to post the email after much thought to show the type of harassment WOC go through. In her tweets, she talks about the harassment she gets from Asian men for being in a mixed race relationship.
“There are Asian men out there actively seeking out and harassing Asian femmes because they perceive us as being “self-racist” — allegedly because we dare have partners outside our ethnicity, because we have mixed kids or are mixed or write about race.”
“Anyway, I posted that email as a reminder that this is the kind of bullshit women have to deal with. From people of their own ethnicity. That’s on top of the usual harassment, microaggressions, and violence from other people, too.”
“Many, if not MOST, Asian women get this kind of harassment online. Have a project succeed wildly? Great, brace yourself. See: Jenny Han right now; Nicole Chung every damn day, and so on. Success often ends up placing a target on your back for “men’s rights activists”/”incels.””
“My biggest fear about this kind of harassment is that it will intimidate emerging WOC writers into silence. Because let’s be honest: would you want to write a piece that gets widely shared, if it means these dudes will come after you?
“And fourth, when you encounter WOC getting harassed: HAVE their backs. You don’t have to engage with the harassers if it feels unsafe. But send messages of support to the targeted person, privately or publicly. Report threats and targeted harassment. Send the message: NOT OKAY.”
“Oh, one more: Call out this kind of misogyny if you feel safe doing so. The email above was sent from a university address. I forwarded it to the dean of the college, explaining why it wasn’t okay and saying I didn’t think these were the values the college wanted to promote.”
For the full tweet story check it out here: https://twitter.com/pronounced_ing/status/1032652197367099392